Tuesday, December 9, 2014

Happy Birthday

...Mom

Mom is 87 years old today and lives in heaven. Her spirit remains forever in my heart. She was without question, one of the most fun people on the planet. I miss that. 

This pic was taken on their wedding day, March 29, 1946.

Blessings,
Ken

Friday, November 28, 2014

Happy Birthday, Dad

Ninety Years!!

Dad almost made it to his 90th birthday. We had been planning a big birthday bash (at his request) for over a year. We're thinking that sometime this winter we're going to have a celebration of his life with a bunch of friends and relatives and relate our favorite stories about him.

Here's my favorite story in recent times: About four years or so back, Dad decided he wanted a new car and asked me to take him to the Dallas Auto Show. He's a traditional kind of guy, but there just aren't many cars left like his favorite Lincolns and rear-drive Buicks. So I steered him to one of the last remaining front engine/rear drive cars, a Mercury Grand Marquis Ultimate Edition. He liked the car a lot but expressed some concerns. When I questioned him about it, he replied, "well, the Mercury brand has been discontinued and I'm worried about resale value".

I said, "Dad, you're 85 years old. Why would you care about resale value". He bought the car.

Blessings,
Ken

Saturday, November 22, 2014

Christmas Music

...by Handsome & Gretyl

If you're looking for something new in Christmas music, this young couple from Seattle has released an EP (5 songs) entitled "Wonder". Brett and Gretyl Baird introduce a couple of new songs, plus put their spin on some classics. I ordered several copies as stocking stuffers. Give a listen.

Blessings,
Ken

Monday, November 10, 2014

Veterans Day

...honoring my dad

My Dad served in the US Army during World War II.  Stationed in California, he was about to be sent overseas when he got a serious bronchial infection and his unit shipped out without him. Not long after, with things winding down, he was ordered to serve out his enlistment at Fort Ord in California. It was during this time that he met and married my mom. After discharge from the Army, he went to Auburn University on the GI bill. I was born before he graduated. 

Today we went to the cemetery to put American Flags on his grave.

My thanks to Dad and all the other veterans who serve and protect our country. 

Blessings,
Ken

Tuesday, November 19, 2013

November

...30 Days of Grace We're approaching the anniversary of the loss of our grand daughter, Sydney Grace. November 30 six years ago she was born still and a dream for our son and daughter-in-law died with her. Over these six years we've all found many ways to honor and remember her. I still think of her in the present tense. This year Alyssa began a "30 Days of Grace" on November 1, finding ways to do random acts of kindness and generosity to honor Sydney. My wife and I have participated and haven't said much about it until today. Today, as we drove along Hwy 80 in Wills Point, we saw five young people conducting a car wash in front of a local business. We pulled in and inquired if this was a club or something. It wasn’t. Seems that the two holding signs and the three doing the car washing are friends of a young man whose sister was killed in an accident last week. None of them knew the girl who was killed. These five wanted to help the family with funeral expenses. No charge for the car wash, just donate what you can. Was my car squeaky clean after the car wash? No. It had streaks and water spots, but I drove away with an empty wallet thinking it was the best wash I ever had. Five kids doing a kindness for the memory of a friend's sister--someone they never met. Sydney's Grace. Blessings, Ken

Friday, May 10, 2013

Mother's Day

...remembering me and mom in the kitchen

My mother has been gone for 15 years now but even so, I think about her every day. I remember the fun that she was at any family gathering, and I remember all the things she taught me. Since this is mother's day weekend, I want to re-post here an article I wrote about her that was published in the Fort Worth Star-Telegram a few years ago.


Mom and Me In The Kitchen

Even though I didn’t think it great at the time, my mom taught me to cook—and clean, and iron, and wash clothes (neatly separated by colors, of course)—and handle all the other chores one needs to know to run a household. As far as the ironing goes, I managed to keep that a secret from my bride, at least until mom came for her first visit and spilled the news. The fact that I could operate a sewing machine, mend pants and sew on buttons remained hidden until the wife and I had been married a few years. She still distrusts me over that issue.

Learning to cook was fun because mom made it so. Even Sunday dinners after church took on a festive atmosphere for me and my two sisters, and that was only due to our mother’s efforts to turn mundane ingredients into a feast. Then we’d sit around the table, stuffing our faces as we offered critique on the preacher’s sermon that day and laugh about how he seemed to dredge up the same illustrations several times a year. One of those stories involved a little girl in an orphanage surrounded by an iron fence. Having few friends and no one to play with, she would write notes and slip them through the iron bars or hang them from a tree limb bordering the property. Most of those notes went unnoticed, or just blew away, but one day a passing gentleman picked up the note while out on a walk and was touched by the sentiment he read, written by a lonely child just reaching out to someone--anyone. It said, “Whoever reads this, I love you”. That touching, yet amusing story came to be a running joke in our family, and we’d occasionally put those six words at the bottom of letters, grocery lists, post cards, etc.

The years came and went; I headed off to college as did my sisters. While in college, I realized the value of what mom had taught us about handling household chores. Her lessons served me well, and even later on I realized that I could use my culinary skills to impress the ladies. Yes, indeed, mom knew what she was doing! To this day, my wife still loves it when I cook for her; it’s one of those little things that say “I love you” without having to utter a word.

As our children grew up, we made sure they learned those same lessons and as our sons got to high school age, the four of us took delight in cooking for my parents, sometimes even going to the extremes of packing up food and utensils, making the hour drive to their home and preparing a meal for them. It was on one of those trips that I left my favorite apron behind, and this wasn’t just any apron. It was custom made to my specifications by my sweet wife and was even stenciled with my name on it. Great apron, too. Has two pockets, adjustable neck strap, multiple loops for holding towels, and is, in short, the perfect apron. No worries, though, as I knew I’d retrieve it on our next trip to East Texas to see mom and dad.

Unfortunately, things didn’t turn out that way, as in mid March of 1998 while being treated for pneumonia, mom went into cardiac arrest. After being in a coma for two days, she passed peacefully out of this life and into eternity. Some weeks after the funeral, as I was helping dad go through things so he could reorganize his house—and his life—I came across my apron. It had been washed and was neatly folded so I put it into the stack of things my wife and I would take home. Helping dad do this task was a sad duty, but he truly needed help as he was not accustomed to surviving without his love and best friend of 53 years.

A couple of weeks later, I was preparing to spend a Saturday afternoon cooking up some Cajun dishes for dinner. Our whole family (including mom and dad) always enjoyed my fare from southern Looseeanna and we’re all fans of the late humorist and Cajun Chef Justin Wilson. As I began the slicing and dicing, my dear wife reminded me that I needed my favorite apron and she went to retrieve it from its normal place, hanging on a hook in the pantry. Slipping it over my head and tying the sash, I felt totally prepared to feed the masses, or at least our family of four. Stepping towards the sink, and reaching my hand into one of the apron pockets, I pulled out a folded piece of paper. Upon straightening out the note-sized page, I recognized my mother’s handwriting on one of her monogrammed notes. Through increasingly blurry eyes, I read the words, “Whoever reads this, I love you”.

It’s been eight years since I found that note and it remains in the left pocket of that apron. Sure, I look at it occasionally, but now instead of making me teary eyed, it puts a smile on my face as I realize the favor mom did me not only by making me learn to cook but in taking those kitchen opportunities to enrich our family memories. That little slip of paper now has various food stains on it and has started to yellow but that’s okay. I’ll pass it, and the apron, on to my two sons. Maybe I’ll write my own note to go with it.

I miss you, mom.

Blessings,
Ken

Tuesday, May 7, 2013

Dallas World Aquarium

 ...as a wedding venue??

Absolutely. The last few years I've had a number of wedding ceremonies at the Dallas World Aquarium on Griffin Street in downtown Dallas. Sea creatures and rainforest creatures are everywhere in this three story facility. One of the more stunning areas is the glass tunnel you walk through and discover that there are ocean creatures (including sharks) swimming on three sides of you.
For special events, you can arrange some up close and personal time with Leno, the three toed sloth. He is very sociable and likes being held, as Pei and Beth found out after their wedding ceremony last weekend. Some of the creatures, such as the snakes and crocodiles, you don't want to get personal with .

Check out the DWA website at http://www.dwazoo.com/  If you go, be prepared to spend a few hours. This isn't something you can see in a 30 minute walk through.

Blessings
Ken

Tuesday, January 22, 2013

Vi and Joseph

...at the Meyerson

Last November Vi and Joseph had their dream wedding at the Meyerson Symphony Center with about 300 guests looking on. Meredith Commender (www.significanteventsoftexas.com) was the planner extraordinaire. You should see the detail work that Meredith and her team put into an event.  The picture was among the spectacular work by Ivy Weddings (www.ivy-weddings.com)
Recently, they sent me a highlights video from the ceremony and reception (held at the Fashion Industry Gallery). Take a look:


Great day all around. Congratulations Vi and Joseph.

After the ceremony I found out that Meredith carries jumper cables in her car. Don't ask why I needed to know that, except that she saved my day!

Blessings,
Ken

Tuesday, January 8, 2013

The Knot Pick

...best of weddings for 2013

Love Notes is honored and humbled that we have again received the 2013 Pick, Best of Weddings from the Knot.  What a great thing, to get an award for doing something we love.

Blessings,
Ken