Treasure The Promise

More Refrigerator Art

2012-02-09T12:12:00.003-06:00

...this one from 6 year old Jada

Regular followers of this blog know I'm a big fan of refrigerator art--if you want to see what's important to people, go look at what's on the outside of the refrigerator.

Last night I met with a couple to work out details of their wedding ceremony next month. This will be a blended family, so I got to meet six year old Jada, a charmer with dark hair and big, dark eyes. I always have paper, crayons and stickers with me for such occasions, so I asked Jada to make something for me.

She asked what she should draw. I told her to draw something that gives her happy thoughts. Above is the result--from left to right: grandfather, Jada, mom, dad, grandmother. Interesting how you can find out what's in a child's mind just by asking the right question.

Blessings,
Ken

A 2011 Event

2012-01-02T18:16:00.008-06:00

...that I wish hadn't happened.

You may have heard about the multiple murder/suicide that occurred in Grapevine at Christmas. A tragedy to be sure, and I grieved for the families. However, it became a lot more personal for me when I learned a few days ago that I had actually met at least one, and possibly more, of the victims.

Last June I had the honor to officiate at a Persian themed wedding at Union Station in downtown Dallas. It was truly an international affair with guests from multiple countries, including Iran. The bride's family, of Iranian heritage, wanted elements of a traditional Persian wedding, so the bride and groom asked me to structure a ceremony accordingly. The ceremony took place at a beautiful stage setting, including the traditional Persian "sofreh", or wedding cloth spread with decorations, sweets, pastries, and other items. Part of the ceremony takes place with the bride and groom sitting behind the platform, but there is traditionally a mirror on the sofreh, so that they may see each other's reflection.

The sofreh and other decorations you see in the picture were designed and arranged by Zohreh Rahmaty, a delightfully creative woman. She was one of the victims; the shooter was her brother-in-law. It's likely I met some of the other victims, but don't know for certain.

My point is, we are not guaranteed tomorrow. Whatever you need to get said or done, get it said or done sooner rather than later. I imagine that thought has crossed the mind of family and friends who lost loved ones in this senseless tragedy.

Blessings,

Ken

Scarlet Ribbons

2011-12-23T20:59:00.001-06:00

...for Sydney's Hair

Can't help but wonder what might have been. This would have been Sydney Grace's fourth Christmas, with all the anticipation and wonder that a little girl would have. Came across the old song "Scarlet Ribbons" a few days ago and it made me think about what I might have bought for my grand daughter.

Whatever gifts there might be, mainly I would want her to sit in granddaddy's lap, and feel warm and loved and safe. My comfort is that she is sitting in the Father's lap, feeling warm and loved and eternally safe.

Blessings,

Ken

Baby Gus

2011-12-19T16:52:00.003-06:00

...Baby Jesus

Newest grandson, Augustus, scored his first acting gig this week, playing the baby Jesus in a live Nativity scene in Round Rock. I hear he got rave reviews. Heather was cast as the BVM (Blessed Virgin Mary). Have no idea who the dude is playing Joseph.

The second pic was taken of Heather at a company Christmas party this week. No wonder that my grandsons are photogenic.

Blessings,

Ken

Happy Birthday, Liam

2011-12-07T21:50:00.003-06:00

...hardly seems like seven years

Liam Christopher Byrd, born December 7, 2004. He was only 4 lbs 12 oz and came into the world early and with some drama.

I remember getting the phone call that an emergency c-section was about to happen. We could hardly draw a good breath for a couple of hours while we waited for news.

This miracle baby, grandson #2 in the flock, is now a strapping young lad in grade school. He has a way of looking at you, with those blue eyes, that makes you feel as if he's looking right into your soul. He also has a sensitive side and a creative, crazy side that comes straight from his father. Liam may also be the best big brother in the world, who watches after his little bro and is usually tolerant of Henry's H-bombness.

Happy Birthday, Liam. You make granddaddy proud.

My Blogger dashboard is being obstinate tonight. You'll just have to scroll down to see the pix.

Blessings,

Ken

Stardust Celebrations

2011-12-01T15:53:00.002-06:00

....my peek inside

Even though I officiate many weddings each year, it isn’t often I get a behind-the-scenes look at what goes on in the weeks and months leading up to the big day. However, I was recently given a peek behind the curtain, courtesy of Marsha Ballard French of Stardust Celebrations in Plano. A link to their website is below.

While I had known and worked with Marsha on specific weddings, my association with her was usually only on wedding day or at AACWP events, so I mainly knew her as one of the premier event planners in Texas. I was aware that she owned a bridal salon and I assumed—incorrectly—that it was a mom-and-pop that sold a few wedding dresses and shoes. Boy, was I ever wrong.

Recently Marsha invited me to come to Stardust Celebrations to meet with a couple getting married next year. Marsha is planning their event for them and very kindly gave me the opportunity to talk with them about having me officiate. Because I got there early, Marsha and some of the staff gave me a tour. I was not prepared for the scope of it all. Two floors, thousands of square feet of wedding gowns, bridesmaid gowns, flower girl dresses, mother’s gowns, jewelry, shoes, accessories, tuxedos (and other men’s accessories) and more, much more. Mirrored walls are numerous. Staff are everywhere. Just walking in the front door, and being greeted, you get the feeling that this is a place of purpose and they know what they’re doing. In fact, two sentences I found on the Stardust website seem to sum up their mission: “Getting married happens in one day, planning a wedding takes months.”

Marsha and Stardust have been featured in magazines and television shows such as “Girl Meets Gown” on the WE Network (see more about this show and watch video by clicking HERE.) Marsha is a member and past president of the American Association of Certified Wedding Planners. She routinely is involved in training and mentoring the next generation of wedding planners by helping with AACWP classes and allowing interns to shadow her during event planning.

If I were to list all of the awards, magazine covers, magazine articles and other press given to Stardust, it would take a few pages, so I’ll just invite you to click HERE to see what others say about Stardust.

After my tour and visiting with my couple, I now know why each ceremony I’ve ever done where Marsha was involved, was organized and ran so smoothly. She makes it look easy, but I know it’s not.

You can learn more about Stardust Celebrations by clicking HERE, or visit them in person at 6464 W Plano Pkwy Plano,TX 75093 I haven’t yet had the opportunity to visit their other two stores, Lulu’s Bridal (located in uptown Dallas) and A Bridal Closet (located at Shops of Willow Bend, between Macy’s and Neiman’s.) Maybe I’ll get that invitation sometime.

My bride and groom are in good hands. My thanks to Marsha and the Stardust staff for a truly eye opening tour.

Blessings,

Ken

Sydney's Song

2011-11-29T23:59:00.006-06:00

...a father's heart is torn in two

Regular readers already know this story. On November 29, 2007 we got the news that our granddaughter, Sydney Grace, had died in utero due to a severe placental abruption. That sounds blunt, but it's the fact. Ian called me that day to break the news. Because we were so close to delivery date, I immediately answered my phone whenever I saw his name in the caller id. I picked up the phone expecting happy news, but no.

Sydney Grace was born still the next day; we almost lost Alyssa that day, but thanks to generous donors she received several units of blood which saved her life. Alyssa was in critical condition; my son had to make funeral arrangements for his daughter. No father should have to do that.

While there will never be any "getting over" Sydney's death, they decided to move forward and trust God for the future. Fortunately, God blessed them with Henry two years later. I don't really know if I could be that strong and I admire them for their faith.

I was somewhat aware that Ian was working on a project for Sydney and only a few weeks ago found out that he had been working on "Sydney's Song". The recording process took about a year. The result is now complete and can be heard, for free, or it can be downloaded in almost any format you want for a small donation. Proceeds will go to the Abba Fund at Desert Springs Church in Albuquerque--this fund is used to help couples with expenses incurred in the adoption process; Ian and Alyssa have decided they want a third child and have begun the journey to adopt.

I hope you'll click the link above and listen to the song. Even though it's initially about losing their daughter, it is ultimately about our knowledge that we can see her again, in heaven. BTW, a word about the little wind chimes you'll hear at the beginning and end of the song- at Sydney's memorial service several months later, Lyss gave us all little wind chimes to remember Sydney. We hung ours in the crepe myrtle over our garden bench. Sometimes when we sit there, the breeze makes the chimes tinkle and we always say "Hi, Sydney".

And sometimes, they make noise when there is no breeze at all.

Blessings,
Ken

Augustus

2011-11-09T21:08:00.001-06:00

...surrounded by love

The look on Alexander's face says it all.

Blessings,
Ken

Birth Announcement

2011-10-09T12:21:00.000-05:00

...for our newest grandson. Loves me some grandbabies!
Big brothers Aidan and Alexander are learning a new skill.

Blessings,
Ken

More Gus Pix

2011-09-28T16:19:00.001-05:00

...can't get enough

Gus and big bro, Aidan

Donna gets to go to Round Rock tomorrow for a visit but I can't go until next week. So she gets to hold him first!

Blessings,
Ken

update 9/29/11 5pm. She called. he's adorable & cuddly.

Gus with big bro, Alexander, and mom, Heather

Gus in dreamland

Gus Arrives Early

2011-09-13T17:36:00.003-05:00

...nothing like a dramatic entry

Augustus, Day 3

Augustus Christopher Byrd arrived on Sunday, Sept 4, weighing in at 6 lbs 13 oz. That's a good weight considering that he was a month early. He came into the world by emergency c-section, and has been in the NICU at the Round Rock hospital.

On the up side, the IV's have been taken out, the feeding tube removed and is breathing room air instead of the oxygen assist. It was really hard to look at all the wires and tubes he had hooked up to him; fortunately, those wonderful folks in the scrubs know how to operate all the electronic stuff being used.

Augustus, day 9

As of today, he's feeding well and is gaining weight. He still has to pass some benchmarks before they'll release him. We still haven't been able to hold him because of the monitors that are still hooked up to him.

May God richly bless the staff at St. David's/Round Rock Hospital.

blessings,

Ken

update: 9/16/11 Word is Gus may get to go home on Sunday 9/18. He's a fighter.

Circle of Life

2011-08-31T17:46:00.004-05:00

...mine keeps getting bigger

Sometime back I had the joy of officiating the ceremony for Emily and Peter, including their daughter, Kaylehn. Go here to see artwork she made for me: http://treasurethepromise.blogspot.com/2011/02/refrigerator-art.html

Anyway, I recently heard from Emily in two different ways. Seems her cousin, Natalie, attended her wedding and now Natalie has given me the honor of doing her ceremony as well sometime in November. I also got an email from Emily that Kaylehn has a new little sister, Ava. Here are a couple of pix.

I so love it when my couples stay in touch and bless me with such pictures. It's a double blessing when they entrust a friend or relative to my care.

Next up--Emily has time off to be a new mom before going back to work; Peter is still training as a paramedic, Kaylehn is being a big sis, and Ava is...well, doing what babies do.

Emily, Peter, Kaylehn, and Ava: thanks for sharing your lives with me.

Blessings,
Ken

FORTY-TWO

2011-08-26T10:43:00.000-05:00

...How Time Flies

August 23, 1969 Donna and I said our vows at Highland Park Baptist Church in Austin. The reception was held at her parents home. What were we thinking?!! The house was good sized, but the air conditioner wasn't designed to handle 60 guests when the temp was 95 and the humidity at 64%. But it was fun, even so.

Later she changed into her travel ensemble, I changed into my formal bell-bottoms and double breasted blazer. We hopped into our 1967 VW Beetle, no air conditioning, and headed off to our honeymoon.

Love conquers all, we always say. That day it conquered the heat, humidity and sweat.

Happy anniversary, my love. It's been a great 42 years.

Blessings,
Ken

Watch Out, John Travolta

2011-07-13T18:12:00.000-05:00

Alexander James Byrd, Age 6

...Alexander has some moves

This picture cracks me up. Alexander (age 6) doing a little dance move on a recent expedition with his other set of grandparents. They took a trip to the coast in their RV. Not sure what inspired Nander to this pose, but it's pure Alexander attitude. That's a fun thing.

Blessings,
Ken

July 4, 2011

2011-07-06T00:52:00.004-05:00

...with a German flavor

Heather (part German) and Adam (Eagle Scout-note the shirt)

Heather, Adam, Aidan, Alexander, Donna and myself spent July 4 evening in Walburg, Texas. Augustus came, too, but he was safely floating around inside Heather awaiting his due date. Walburg is not much more than a wide spot on FM Road 1105 in rural Williamson County, about thirty miles north of Austin. Other than a Lutheran Church, not much there with the huge exception of the Walburg Restaurant and Bier Garten. Restaurant (indoor dining) is open regularly, but the garten is open selected months and days. A huge tent covers long rows of rustic wood picnic tables. A raised stage and dancefloor at one end is a hint of what is to come.

Elsewhere, there are outside tables, a building for food and drink, a kids arcade, and places to just let the kids run around and be kids, in an enclosed, safe environment. In all the times I've been there, don't think I've ever heard any guest exchange a cross word with any other guest.
For the adults, the big draws are traditional German food (schnitzel, brats, kraut,, etc.), a huge selection of German and domestic beers, AND the Walburg Boys. This bunch of part German/part redneck musicians is the house band, but they also play German festivals all over the country, including Wurstfest in New Braunfels in October. Led by Ronny Tippelt, lead singer/accordion player/chief yodeler, the 8 piece band can handle polka, yodel standards, and German takes on favorite pop & rock such as "Margaritaville" and "Sweet Home Alabama". Until you've heard Ronny and the rhythym guitarist do two part harmony yodels over the familiar guitar lick, you just haven't lived. When the Walburg Boys took a break, down on the other end of the tent, the Brushy Creek Brass Band cranked up patriotic American tunes, peppered with some German standards.

The dance floor had at various times, couples in their 80's, all the way down to children under ten just enjoying the fun music and atmosphere.

The single most poignant moment occurred during the band's second set. A young girl, perhaps 12 or 13, had been standing at the edge of the dance floor. She was plainly dressed, a little awkward, taking furtive glances at the dancers. A few minutes later the band started a slow waltz number and a tall, cowboy looking guy in starched Wranglers & Justin Ropers walked over to the young girl and extended his hand. This was about to be their very first father-daughter dance. He showed her how the rhythym went, got her up on the balls of her feet, and showed her how to turn. Then, it was magic. The dad was clearly a bit awkward; the girl kept looking at her feet--he was so tall and she was short enough that her right arm only reached his belt level, so she grabbed a belt loop. They waltzed and twirled for the song's duration and when it was over, he stepped back and gave his daughter a stiff little bow. She looked up into his eyes and it was so plain that I had just witnessed a defining moment between father and daughter. She walked gracefully, like a young lady, to the edge of the dance floor, then jumped off onto the dirt with a hand clap, like a little girl, and ran off to tell her friends.

I did not see them again before we left. They'll never know that a complete stranger saw this moment that both will likely remember forever. That's the magic of Walburg--it's like a month's vacation--the cares just dissolve away, you get lost in the music and camraderie, and if you watch very carefully, you might see a father and daughter making a memory to share in the future.

Alexander James & Aidan Kenneth Byrd

Just go to Google and look for Walburg, Texas, Walburg Boys, etc. The pictures here are of my son Adam, his wife, Heather (who is currently carrying Gus, due in October), and their two sons, Aidan and Alexander.

Got to enjoy these little moments in life.

Blessings,

Ken

Reason Number 7,777

2011-06-12T22:34:00.000-05:00

...why I love living in the south

During a break in the game tonight (Go Mavs!), the wife and I went outside to sit on our garden bench and enjoy the evening. In the space of ten minutes numerous song birds were around, squirrels played in the trees, and our resident bunnies were hopping around tasting the vegetation. The skunks are only out when we're asleep, the coyotes stay along the creek, and the pair of red tale hawks soaring over the neighborhood only occasionally dives to capture their dinner.

But the reason I enjoyed it so much tonight? First time to hear the cicadas singing. I love that sound.

Blessings,
Ken

Beating Cancer

2011-06-10T22:42:00.000-05:00

...ten years and counting

I'm grateful for every day that I have and every day I have I owe to a couple of very good doctors who caught a problem early enough to make it go away. Nothing will bring you face to face with your mortality quite like the doctor calling to say "we've found some malignant cells. you need to come in to discuss the options. we've scheduled you for tomorrow morning". Not next week or next month. Tomorrow morning.

June 11 is the ten year anniversary of the surgery and happy to say all tests since then are good. Cancer is not always a death sentence. A big part of recovery was my faith in God. Also, the Bible says "laughter is good medicine". That is absolutely true. Scientific studies have shown that laughter has a profound and positive effect on the body. With that in mind, I hereby offer the seven things I learned during four days in the hospital:

1. Catheters are a tool of Satan
2. Hospitals do not recognize any difference between day and night
3. Catheters are a tool of Satan
4. Hospitals do not understand privacy and dignity
5. Catheters are a tool of Satan
6. Any hospital person in a lab coat who enters your room is going to pull back the sheet, lift up your lovely hospital gown and look at your manly parts;
AND
7. Catheters are a tool of Satan.

Looking back on the hospital stay, I also remember that my buddy, Ken Savage, was the only visitor who was kicked out of the room by hospital staff. They were afraid all the laughter was going to cause me to pop stitches.

Seriously, God used Dr. Josephine Win and Dr. Scott Hassell to ensure that I am still around to enjoy all my grandchildren. God is good.

Blessings,
Ken

Sydney Grace

2011-05-26T21:57:00.000-05:00

...remembered regularly

On a regular basis I go watch the video that my son created in memory of Sydney Grace. She would be almost four years old now.

http://vimeo.com/3349895

Sydney, can't wait to get there and see you.

Blessings
your granddaddy

Mr. Whipple Always Said

2011-05-20T20:37:00.000-05:00

Henry Adam Byrd, Age 18 months

...don't squeeze

But really, look at this picture. How could you not want to pick up this child and squeeze him? The problem becomes when he figures out that Granddaddy has no willpower and always gives in to the grand babies.

Blessings,

Ken

A Veritable Plethora

2011-05-16T20:46:00.003-05:00

...of grandsons

Found out this afternoon that our next grandbaby is Augustus Christopher Byrd, already known as Gus. Here is his first formal portrait. This will make five--count 'em-- FIVE, grandsons.

Augustus is a family name on Heather's side; Christopher is Adam's middle name. Frankly, I like "Augustus" because it reminds me of Ranger Augustus McRae, central character in Lonesome Dove, as portrayed by Robert Duvoll. Heather's great-great (however many greats) grandfather, Augustus was also a Texas Ranger, and later a Methodist circuit preacher.

Doc says baby looks good, developing normally, has the requisite dangly parts, and Heather is doing fine as well. Only problem for Donna, Heather and Alyssa will be that at future family reunions, they will have to deal with a group heavily weighted on the testosterone side. Let the fun begin!

Blessings,
Ken

Marriage 101

2011-05-05T21:16:00.013-05:00

...Back To The Basics

More to come. This is a phenomenal opportunity for Love Notes to help our couples prepare for married life.

Blessings,
Ken

We Are Not Promised Tomorrow

2011-04-29T21:29:00.000-05:00

...you never know when today is the last one.

Just as I was arriving at a wedding rehearsal in The Colony this evening, I got a phone call that the groom's grandfather had suffered a heart attack and died about 90 minutes earlier. At the venue, only the best man and father of the bride were there; everyone else was at the hospital.

My heart aches for this family, and especially the bride and groom. The wedding will go on tomorrow, but there's no way it will be quite the same for the couple. What should be the happiest Saturday of their life will have a shadow over it.

However, we'll deal with it, perhaps with a moment of silence for his memory. It's absolutely no disrespect to the grandfather for the couple to celebrate on their wedding day. And it's also no disrespect to the couple to have a solemn moment in memory of a grandparent.

I currently have 4 grandchildren and one on the way. If God should call me on the day one of them is to be married, I absolutely want them to go on with the ceremony.

My prayers are with Elizabeth and Elliott and their families.

Blessings,
Ken

My Grandson Is...

2011-04-23T21:14:00.000-05:00

Abnormal.

At first glance that sounds like a bad thing. Owing to my middle sister and my daughter-in-law #1 I've learned quite a lot about special education and special needs kids. Interesting thing is way more attention (and funding) is focused on those kids who are challenged or slower learners. What about the other end of the spectrum?

Aidan is different. His brain isn't wired like most of us. It's a little scary that my grandson is intellectually way beyond me in many ways. He loves space, science and math. His parents recently bought for him a DVD series called "Elegant Universe". It's pretty intense material about space/time, gravitons, and the inner workings of atoms. Following the show, he went up to his room with a pad of paper and starting trying to put it all together. He was asking questions like "what's the speed of an electron?" and "when an atom loses a neutron does it bounce to another atom?".

Aidan is 8 years and 5 months old. How many "normal" 8 year olds ask those questions? Where's the funding to keep kids like him challenged, focused and ready to invent the technology to take us into the 22nd century?

Blessings,

Ken

Happy 65th Anniversary

2011-03-29T15:37:00.001-05:00

...to my Mom and Dad

Today would be my parent's 65th anniversary.

My parents met in California at the end of WWII. He was in the Army and had a part time job off-post at a drugstore where a fiery, high spirited redhead named Jeanette Jones was working the soda counter. They were married less than a year later, on March 29, 1946.

You know, one of those whirlwind romances that people said would never last. Well, it did last until March 12 of 1998 when mom passed away. Dad has remained single. I really don't think there could ever be any other woman for him.

For better or worse, richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, they stuck together. What a wonderful example for the rest of us.

Blessings,

Ken

How Do I Find Empathy

2011-02-28T23:49:00.000-06:00

...for a situation I've never faced?

Tomorrow evening I will be meeting with the parents and siblings of a young man who died of a heroin overdose. Tragically, it was his parents who found his body. I was with this same family on a much happier occasion, a wedding, about three years ago.

I have children and grandchildren and even though we did lose a granddaughter who died in utero, I cannot begin to understand the grief this family must be experiencing. I know that all the "why" questions don't really have answers and any feeble attempt at an answer doesn't really offer comfort.

This is the hard part of ministry--looking into the eyes of mourning parents as they struggle to accept the decisions made by their flesh and blood. I'll have to trust God to give me the words to say, because I'm not sure I have any of my own.

"There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens:
a time to be born and a time to die,
a time to weep and a time to laugh,
a time to mourn and a time to dance,
a time to search and a time to give up"

Blessings,
Ken

Refrigerator Art

2011-02-27T20:51:00.002-06:00

...another in a continuing series

Regular readers know that I love refrigerator art. If you want to know what's important to folks, go look at the refrigerator. Ours is covered with pictures of grandchildren, their artwork, and other essentials of life.

This afternoon I met with Emily and Peter to talk about their wedding next month. They brought along their 5 year old daughter, Kaylehn. Because I always have with me paper, markers, crayons and stickers, I got Kaylehn to make me some refrigerator art.

Interesting back story. Turns out Peter and I had crossed paths a few years back when he was a barista at a Starbucks I frequent. He stood out in my mind as a kind person. One afternoon, a surprise thunderstorm with much lightning caught motorcylists (including me) and about two dozen bicyclists running for cover to the Starbucks. Soaking wet, we huddled inside while the power went off a few times. Peter and the staff there calmly went about handing out coffee and nice fluffy towels to those of us who were soaking wet. It was pretty cool today when he and Emily walked in and we recognized each other.

Life is a big circle. Peter, Emily and Kaylehn are part of my circle, and their circle grows--Kaylehn will have a little sister late this summer.

Have I mentioned that I love my job?

Blessings,
Ken

Best Valentine's Day

2011-02-14T20:55:00.000-06:00

...EVER

Heather and Adam, Christmas 2010

So we're sitting down to a candle light dinner. My spouse prepared home made egglant lasagna, asparagus, and even a home made chocolate pie with a nice high fluffy meringue. We had just made a V-Day toast, looking forward to more years together, and then the phone rang.

Our elder son, Adam, sounding very serious, asked both of us to get on the phone. He had some news: "You're gonna be grandparents again!".

My beautiful daughter-in-law

Anyway, due date is October 6. Heather is just fine. Aidan and Alexander are excited that they're going to be big brothers, although Aidan, in his customary analytical way, wanted to know where he was going to sleep when the baby came.

I just walked by the bathroom mirror and realized that I have a grin on my face that probably won't go away for a while.

Blessings,

Ken

Wedding Websites

2011-02-01T13:59:00.006-06:00

Here's a good one

I see lots of websites that brides and grooms put up to chronicle their planning in the trip to the altar. Here's a link to one that is particularly good. It will be my honor to officiate this ceremony in May at the Hotel ZaZa.

Click HERE to see Rick and Ginger's site.

Blessings,
Ken

Round Rock Racing

2011-01-30T19:18:00.005-06:00

Aidan's First Pinewood Derby

Just got back from a weekend in Round Rock, Texas attending Aidan's first Cub Scout Pinewood Derby, held in the gym of Aidan's elementary school.

Rules are fairly simple. Each scout must use the official Boy Scouts of American car kit which is nothing more than a block of pine wood, four plastic wheels, and four nails which serve as axles. The Scouts are free to carve, cut or sand the wood into any shape they wish, paint in any color, add stickers and other attachments. When completed, it must weigh no more than five ounces. Since the track is all gravity based, the closer a car is to max weight the faster it will go, all other things being equal. Aidan's car weighed in at 4.9 ounces.

Measuring about 40 feet in length, the track was machined aluminum, allowing two cars to run side by side. Cars are released simultaneously; this track had electronic timing which automatically posted time and winner of each heat. Each pair of scouts got five rounds of two heats each, for a total of ten runs. Aidan's car won 8 out of his ten heats.

Even though trophies were awarded for first, second and third place, it isn't about winning or trophies. It was about having fun, being a team, planning a project and executing the plan. That's what scouting teaches in its various activities. In this activity, they also learned about gravity, momentum, weight, balance, and friction.

Proud to say that my son, Adam, is assuming the role of scout master for Aidan's den. Adam's uniform includes a woven red, white and blue patch directly over the pocket, which indicates that he is also an Eagle Scout.

What a great weekend! Pround of my son and grandson.

Blessings,
Ken

The Knot Dot Com

2011-01-27T17:47:00.001-06:00

...recognizes LoveNotes

The premiere website for brides planning a wedding is www.theknot.com . Over the years many brides have found LoveNotes via The Knot. The site has a wealth of

resources for just about any need a bride might have for that big day.

We were recently notified that LoveNotesWeddings (www.lovenotesweddings.com) has been awarded a "Best of 2011" seal by The Knot.

It's gratifying and we're proud; but it's also humbling to be given an award for doing something that we love to do.

Blessings,
Ken

Two Boys...

2011-01-01T12:34:00.005-06:00

...Two Girls

Adam & Heather Byrd Dec 2010

Ian & Alyssa Byrd Dec 2010

Two of our Christmas presents were the latest portraits of our boys with their spouses. The one of Adam and Heather was taken at the company Christmas party for Adam's employer, Blizzard Entertainment. The one of Ian and Alyssa was shot by their close friend, Amy Grebe. She's the shooter who takes all the great pix of Henry and Liam.

Donna and I are being completely objective and unbiased in the belief that these two couples are the finest looking on the planet. Easy to look at aren't they?

btw, a behind the scenes tidbit. If you could see the left side of Heather's stunning red dress, you'd see the damage done by a doofus who spilled a cup of coffee on her just before the pic.

Blessings,

Ken

Anchors Aweigh

2010-12-23T15:10:00.002-06:00

...The Return Home

If you remember my entry for July 16, 2010, (see it here) I told you about Natalie and Jordan, who had only 3 days to honeymoon before he got on a U. S. Navy ship headed to the Somali sea. He is an officer on the USS Kauffman, a vessel that was committed to thwarting piracy off the horn of Africa.

I've kept in touch with Natalie over the months and I admire her strength as she waited for her man to return. The joyous reunion happened today as the ship pulled into harbor, making 8 ships in four days to return home. Seven hundred fifty heroes are home for the holidays. I cannot think of a better Christmas present for either one of them. This picture was taken just after he stepped onto the pier.

Merry Christmas, Jordan and Natalie!

Blessings,
Ken
update: just found out that Jordan and Natalie have several weeks together to enjoy married life. In February, he's being sent to the Persian Gulf for seven months. I so admire this couple and what they are contributing to our country's freedom.

Tim and Miss Jamie

2010-12-18T21:26:00.005-06:00

...and Nik makes three

This afternoon I had the pleasure to perform a wedding ceremony for Jamie and Tim. At their request, and with my encouragement, they wanted to include Tim's 9 year old son, Nik, in the ceremony. I'll have pictures later and make another entry about this ceremony but right now, a particular moment in the ceremony is on my mind.

Nik, a wonderfully sweet and articulate 9 year old, has autism. He calls his new step-mom "Miss Jamie". Not only was he the ring bearer, he served as best man for his dad. He looked great in his tux with red tie and red pocket square.

Tim and Jamie wanted to have a unity candle along with a beautiful Hawaiian tradition called "blending of the sands". During these two special touches, as the three were blending their colored sand into one vessel, Nik looked up and whispered, "Miss Jamie, you're so beautiful". It was so quiet that I almost didn't hear it. Love comes softly.

Frankly I was glad that the sand blending took a couple of more minutes, so I had time for the lump in my throat to subside so I could go on with the ceremony. If only we could all be so direct and honest and innocent as Nik.

Blessings,
Ken

Happy Birthday

2010-12-08T19:31:00.006-06:00

...to the greatest Mom ever

December 9 would be the 83rd birthday for Jeanette J. Byrd, known to all her friends and grandchildren as JJ. It's been almost 13 years since we lost her but it's a rare day when she doesn't cross my mind. She was much like her father, in that she was the fun spark in any family gathering. She celebrated life, children and grandchildren, and I know that she would be celebrating her great-grandchildren if she were still alive.

She always told us she loved us and was proud of us (by us, I mean me and my sisters). She encouraged us to tell our loved ones how we felt while we had the chance. She also told us that if we wanted to bring her flowers, we should do it with a living plant and while she was still living. She even (jokingly?) told us that if we ever put cut flowers on her grave, she would come back and haunt us.

To this day, my sisters and I have never put flowers on her grave, even though we've been there many times. We stand there and celebrate her memory.

Happy Birthday, Mom, from your baby boy.

Blessings,
Ken

The LoveNotes Staff

2010-12-06T19:50:00.004-06:00

...December 2010

Thanks to super-photographer Laura Parker of Fairy Tale Photography, the LoveNotes staff (or at least a majority) had a photo shoot Sunday afternoon in McKinney at the Adriatica development, which includes a wedding chapel.

In addition to several group photos, she also took solo shots which should be available soon. Given her wedding and other photo obligations, we're honored that she made some time for us.

If you're looking for professional photo work, you can't do better than Laura. She's been published in numerous national magazines. BTW, this group photo is a sneak peak; she hasn't even worked her editing magic on it yet. We've been assured that we'll all look taller, slimmer, and without the second chins (and I'm speaking of us guys; Carol Sage-Younkin looks fine just as she is).

Blessings,
Ken

Heaven Day

2010-11-30T18:21:00.003-06:00

Happy Birthday, Sydney Grace

Three years ago today, Sydney Grace Byrd, was born still. I will never forget the searing pain of that phone call from my son. Yet I also remember thinking how strong he was, knowing that he still needed to be a daddy to Liam, and a strong husband to Alyssa.

It's difficult not to let one's mind think about a blue eyed, brown haired little girl who should be blowing out three candles today.

Sydney, can't wait to see you when I get there.

Blessings,

Ken

Sometimes I Can't Find the Words

2010-10-19T00:45:00.004-05:00

...a grandson makes me proud

Aidan Kenneth Byrd is my first (of four) grandson and he is now following in his father's footsteps by joining the scouting program.

Interesting facts: in the last 50 years, only 2-5% of boys who enter scouting will achieve the rank of Eagle. As I recall Adam reached that milestone in 1991 or 1992. I still have, and cherish, the Eagle-Dad pin and Eagle neckerchief I got. More interesting facts: of the 27 men to travel to the moon, 24 were Boy Scouts; and 11 of the 12 who actually walked on the moon were Scouts; all three members of Apollo 13 were Scouts. Currently, 36% of West Point cadets were in Scouting.

I'll look forward to attending Aidan's Eagle ceremony in a few years. If there's one thing we know about Aidan, it is that he will absolutely achieve what he pursues. He recently received his Bobcat pin, the first step in Scouting.

Blessings,

Ken

Nice To Be Recognized

2010-10-11T17:56:00.006-05:00

By the Brides, And Our Peers

One of the larger wedding related websites is Wedding Wire. I'm happy to say that many of the LoveNotes brides have had nice things to say about the LoveNotes staff. We were recently notified that we have been given the 2010 Wedding Wire Rated award, as well as the 2010 Bride's Choice Award.

You can click HERE to see what couples had to say about LoveNotes. Such recognition is reassuring that we're doing something right. It's doubly nice since we're doing something we love. You think the two are related?

Blessings,
Ken

Yoo Hoo

2010-10-06T20:09:00.002-05:00

tooth fairy, you there??

Alexander James Byrd, known to his close friends as Nander, lost his first tooth today. He is grandson #3, five years old.

Blessings,

Ken

Ol' Blue Eyes

2010-10-05T21:06:00.003-05:00

Henry, that is

Here's the latest pic of Henry. He's closing in on his first birthday. Can't wait til Thanksgiving & our road trip to ABQ.

Blessings,

Ken

Liam Rocks...

2010-09-29T12:34:00.004-05:00

a refrigerator art Van Gogh

Our #2 grandson, Liam Christopher, has always seemed to have a creative, artistic bent to him. When he's here, he and I can spend hours creating artwork out of construction paper, markers, stickers and some glue. Once in a while we get one of his masterpieces in the mail.

He started school this year at the Oak Grove Classical Academy in Albuquerque (pictured with his bff, Aislyn) and so far seems to be enjoying it. One of the classes is art and they've been learning about artists, including Van Gogh. Keep in mind he is five years old. He decided he wanted to create something to send to Donna (his Mamaw) for her birthday, and he did it with Van Gogh in mind.

As always, refrigerator art is the best kind. We'll clear a spot for this one. One thing we noticed is how much improved his handwriting his, bordering on signing his name in cursive.

I'll take Liam over Vincent any day of the week.

Blessings,

Ken

The Little Princess

2010-09-09T21:59:00.004-05:00

...has brown eyes

Met with Megan and Andy tonight to plan towards their wedding ceremony next month. They've known each other since they were 13 years old, but didn't actually date until years later. The couple is having the ceremony and reception at Cowboys Golf Club in Grapevine.

I've been feeling a little "grand baby deprived" lately so they let me hug on their daughter, Hailee, while we talked. Eight month old charmer with blond hair and dark eyes.

Blessings,
Ken

FORTY-ONE

2010-08-23T17:04:00.005-05:00

August 23, 1969 was a really, really good day

Where did the years go? Feels like I blinked and missed something, especially when I realize that three of our grandchildren are now in school.

Then...

And now...

Thanks to my love for putting up with me for 41 years

Blessings,
Ken

Anchors Aweigh

2010-08-16T21:12:00.004-05:00

...but it's love that keeps the heart anchored at home

In 1906 Charles A. Zimmerman and Alfred Hart Miles composed a piece that would be the fight song for the United States Naval Academy, one that would be viewed as the musical tribute to everything our Navy stands for. It's a stirring tribute, one that was playing in my head as I officiated a recent ceremony for Natalie and Jordan at The Tribute Golf Club in The Colony, Texas.

Jordan is a graduate of the U. S. Naval Academy; Natalie is his one and only love. The ceremony took place in front of approximately 200 very enthusiastic guests, and one very grateful minister. I was aware that after the Saturday evening ceremony, the couple would have Sunday, Monday and Tuesday to honeymoon, Wednesday to travel to Virginia, and on Thursday Jordan would board a ship headed towards the horn of Africa for a six month deployment.

When I look at folks like Jordan and Natalie I know that our country's future is in good hands. The point should be made that this is a joint effort. Sure, Jordan will be away for months in a strange place, helping protect the freedoms that we enjoy. But Natalie will be here, waiting, supporting her man, giving him the reason to believe in his safe return, sharing once again that sweet kiss that sealed their wedding vows.

It was an honor to be in their presence.

Blessings,

Ken

The Princess Bride's Sundown Wedding

2010-08-01T10:35:00.019-05:00

...At Fairy Tale Manor

The tall handsome prince and his beautiful petite princess tied the knot at Fairy Tale Ma nor in Frisco during a sundown wedding on July 31. Unlike the fictional princes and princesses, however, this couple brought along their four children ranging in age from 22 months to 10 years. These are the kids that made me the refrigerator art I posted a few weeks ago.

Todd and Shawna actually met at the end of high school back in the late 90's but did not date. As sometimes happens, they went their separate ways and then reconnected about three years ago. Shawna describes it as "love again at first sight". Todd and Shawna's daughter, Amelia (20 months) was the flower girl. Todd's three children Lillie, Cameron and Parker served as bridesmaid and groomsmen.

The couple chose to incorporate a beautiful Hawaiian tradition called Blending of the Sands. It's a wonderfully visual way to show the blending and unity of this new family by pouring different colors of sand into a vessel. The message is that they are now blended together in such a way that, like the colored sand, they can never be taken apart again.

My thanks to Trina, Sarah and the staff at Fairy Tale Manor for helping to make a wonderful memory for the couple, not to mention the staff always takes such great care of me when I go there. I'm also grateful to Laura Parker of Fairy Tale Photography for sending the sneak peak of the pix. Even though the wedding was at sundown, the fading light evidently wasn't an obstacle to Laura and Lauren to get some great shots in the glowy light just as the sun disappeared over the horizon.

Blessings,
Ken

Grandsons Are A Comin'

2010-07-28T21:37:00.006-05:00

...let the spoiling begin

Heather, Aidan and Alexander will be making their annual summer trek to G town to spend a few days with us. A seven year old and a five year old--whatever shall I do? Have fun, perhaps? The pantry is stocked with the usual fun foods favored by the two boys.

Later in the week, Adam will drive up to join us. We've agreed to take care of the boys on Friday night (oh, darn, more spoiling?) and we'll send Adam and Heather out for a romantic dinner for their anniversary. Actual anniversary date is August 9, which this year is 08-09-10.

I'm sure there will be pictures forthcoming. These two pictures were taken two years apart. They both graduated from the same Montessori school in Round Rock

Blessings,

Ken

I Love Technology

2010-07-20T17:54:00.005-05:00

...most of the time

When I was a kid growing up in Orlando, FL, my dad traveled a lot. As a result he tried to make sure that mom had plenty of help, not only in terms of a weekly cleaning person, but in terms of amenities in the house. I won't say what year it was, but our house was just about the first one on the block to have an automatic dishwasher built in.

We'd all stand around it and marvel. My sisters and I would fight over who got to push the button to start it up. Which brings me to my point. That dishwasher had one lever (latch/unlatch), and one button. It was red. Pushing that one button started the cycle.

Fast forward to this week. Our old dishwasher finally gave up, so today a brand new Maytag was installed. It's sleek, black, and very quiet. Eerily quiet, in fact. The electronic control panel is hidden on the top edge. It has enough buttons and programs that I assume there must be an ap for it available from Apple. At the very least they could have included an instructional DVD.

I'm happy to say that even at my age, I'm comfortable with computers, DVD's, Tivo, smart phones, scanners, digital cameras, my Tom-Tom GPS and other electronics. I'm just not sure why a dishwasher needs that many electronic programs.

blessings,
Ken
btw: the first load of dishes came out spotless; and I just realized I sound like Andy Rooney.

Refrigerator Art

2010-07-13T21:47:00.009-05:00

...more of the good stuff

Once in a while I post refrigerator art here. It's still my contention that when you walk into someone's home for the first time, head straight for the kitchen and look at the refrigerator. You'll see what's important to them.

Tonight I met with a couple to discuss their upcoming wedding. This will be a blended family so I asked them to bring the children along. All four of them! Two boys, two girls. They range in age from 22 months to 8 years. For such meetings, I always take along with me colored paper, crayons, stickers and markers and ask the kids to make something for me.

We actually did get some wedding planning done, but I think I enjoyed the kids, their energy and creativity the most. My thanks to Amelia, Lillie, Parker and Cameron for the newest additions to my art collection.

Blessings,

Ken

Dinosaur Park

2010-07-12T21:26:00.002-05:00

...fun in Bastrop County

The Round Rock branch of the Byrd fam visited the dinosaur park in Bastrop County a few months back. Great park, great history, and what kid doesn't like dinosaurs? As part of the attraction they have some life size statues of various 'saurs, and the kids are allowed to climb on & in them.

Look very carefully, and you'll see Nander peeking out. Aidan led the way and read all of the signs to Nander and anyone else who would listen.

Blessings,

Ken

Lyssa Makes Beautiful Babies

2010-07-04T21:53:00.004-05:00

...sometimes musings come true.

Way before Ian and Alyssa were married, or even dating, Alyssa's mother and I would muse over what beautiful babies two such beautiful people might produce. We've had our answer three times. Here's the latest.

Henry is a keeper. So's Lyss.

Blessings,

Ken

The Circle of Life

2010-07-03T14:46:00.007-05:00

...sometimes it's painful, and too fast

Funerals are just part of the territory for anyone in ministry. Are they pleasant? Not particularly. However, they can be celebratory, celebrating a life on earth, as well as celebrating a new life to be lived eternally with God.

On June 26 of this year Casey Palms, a 17 year old boy, took his own life. His family contacted me to deliver a funeral message. Only a few months ago I was with this sweet family for a much different occasion--a wedding.

You often hear people use the old cliche: it seems the only time we all get together is at a wedding or a funeral. I don't see that as a bad thing. It does get family and friends together on account of a common bond, whether it be celebrating a new marriage, or comforting each other over a loss. Either way, it's love.

Casey was a believer and it's important to know that nothing can separate us from God's love. Nothing. Casey stepped out of this life and into the arms of Jesus.

One of the passages I shared with family and friends during the service was Second Corinthians 1:3-4. The translation I used is called “The Message". Here's what it says:
"All praise to the God and Father of our Master, Jesus the Messiah! Father of all mercy! God of all healing counsel! He comes alongside us when we go through hard times, and before you know it, he brings us alongside someone else who is going through hard times so that we can be there for that person just as God was there for us. We have plenty of hard times that come from following the Messiah, but no more so than the good times of his healing comfort."

What God is saying to us is that He is there for us, and wants us to be there for others. Casey may be gone but his friends and family can use this experience--call on it in the future—to offer love and support to someone else. When they do that, they'll think of Casey.

One other thing worth mentioning. Casey had long been vocal about organ donation and had signed the statement on his driver's license. His family consented as well. Because of that generous--but difficult--decision, two people were given the gift of life. Casey's heart lives on.

As hard as it is to get through a time like that, I thank God for letting me be there with the family.

Blessings,
Ken

Look Out Kindergarten

2010-07-03T14:21:00.007-05:00

...Alexander is on the way

Hardly seems possible but our grandson, Alexander, just graduated from the Sunrise Montessori school in Round Rock. Nander (as he is usually known) had a gradution ceremony just as his older brother did two years ago. Even had the same teacher.

They grow up so fast. Don't blink, or you'll miss something.

Blessings,
Ken

Brothers

2010-06-09T22:27:00.008-05:00

a picture is worth...

Some pictures don't need a lot of explanation. Liam is such a great big brother to Henry. I loves me some grandbabies.

blessings,

Ken

Why You Hire a Professional

2010-05-16T13:52:00.011-05:00

part 4 or 5 or 27 or...

Any followers of this blog know I'm a believer in hiring professionals for your event. Over the last couple of years I've occasionally spotlighted specific venues, vendors or event coordinators. Hiring professionals can make the difference between a memorable, once in a lifetime wedding--or a disaster.

Last night I was priviledged to officiate an interfaith ceremony for Jennifer and James. They wanted to include both Christian and Jewish traditions. Not only did this please their respective families, it also pointed out that when people choose to celebrate their differences, taking the best of what each has to offer, and combining those traditions, then clearly love transcends everything else.

What made last night's event (held at the Starlight Room in the Dallas West End) such a smash is that it was planned and carried out under the direction of Katoiya Bell, owner of Bella Domani Custom Wedding and Event Planning. No detail was left to chance, every flower in its place, every member of the wedding party lined up and ready, bartenders, caterers, florists, DJ--all brought into place at exactly the right time to begin a memorable event. This means that the bride and groom had a happy, stress free wedding--not having to worry about all the details.

I (along with my LoveNotes colleagues) have worked with Katoiya on many occasions, and I'm happy to say she more than deserves her spot on the LoveNotes preferred vendor list. Any time a couple gives me her name as their event planner, I admit that I mentally relax a few notches since I know the couple is in good hands and there are things I won't have to worry about; I can concentrate just on the couple.

Apparently, Katoiya is a little shy about photos, as I can only find the one above in my files or on the web. What you need to experience, though, is to see her in person while she's working. From my vantage point, standing with the groom at the front, I can see things the guests don't see. Last night, it was a jubilant Katoiya standing at the back, big smile, jumping and clapping as the bride entered the room. I do enjoy watching professionals who clearly love what they do. Clearly, she does.

btw, the venue photos above weren't from last night's wedding--don't have those yet, so I pulled some from my files.

Blessings,
Ken

Henry

2010-05-12T21:11:00.002-05:00

is over six months, and 15 pounds

The miracle baby, God's miracle of conception, God's miracle of gestation, His miracle of birth, is now over six months old. Born many weeks early, Henry's birth was the culmination of months of prayer and anticipation. Even with the early c-section and two weeks in the NICU, this child thrives. God has a plan for Henry.

On a different level, just look at that face. How can you not want to just pick him up and squeeze him? Be sure to click the image to see this in a larger size.

Just wish Albuquerque was a little closer to Dallas.

blessings,

Ken

Happy Mothers Day

2010-05-09T20:20:00.002-05:00

...to the moms still with us, and those in our hearts

My own wife of nearly 41 years is a wonderful mother to our two sons, and equally wonderful at being grandmother to four little boys. My two sons somehow managed to attract mates who are also wonderful mothers. Adam and Heather have Aidan (age 7) and Alexander (age 5). Ian and Alyssa have Liam (age 5), Henry (six months), and Sydney Grace (who lives in heaven but was born more than two years ago).

Just about any woman can be a mother, but it takes someone special to be a Mommy. I salute the mommies in my life, especially the one who gave birth to me. I miss her every day.

blessings,
Ken

A New Wedding Experience

2010-04-16T21:17:00.003-05:00

...details coming soon.

This coming Sunday I'll have the honor of officiating a rather interesting wedding ceremony. The groom is from Trinidad and comes from a Catholic background. The bride is from India and was raised in an Indian Christian denomination called "Mar Thoma", literally meaning St. Thomas.

They wanted to include elements of both faiths and cultures and after the rehearsal tonight I've concluded that we succeeded in that wish. In a few days I hope to have pictures and a full description of what promises to be one of the more interesting ceremonies I've had.

One thing is certain, and common to all ceremonies: LOVE. This bride and groom have chosen to celebrate the differences, choose the best of what each has to offer, and combine those things into a beautiful, meaningful ceremony.

In the meantime, just Google "Mar Thoma". A whole world of discovery awaits.

Blessings,

Ken

Sound Advice

2010-03-31T21:10:00.011-05:00

...why you hire a professional DJ for your wedding

This past weekend was a study in contrasts. Of the weddings I had, all were sweet, meaningful and at the end of the day, each couple was married to their love. So what was the difference?

At one of the ceremonies, the bride and groom had chosen some specific readings and had written their own vows to each other. Unfortunately, after the ceremony, the comment I heard from numerous guests was "it was a lovely ceremony but we couldn't hear anything". The venue had not provided a sound system for the event.

At a ceremony the next day, the couple had hired a professional DJ who set up a top quality sound system for the ceremony as well as for the reception. The guests heard every word, crystal clear, and I didn't have to raise my voice just so the guests in the back row could hear. The guests could engage in the ceremony and enjoy the meaningful words the couple chose. Further, it allowed me to speak to the couple in a conversational tone.

Then, there's the reception. If the DJ, sound system, and lights are top quality, the reception will sparkle. If the event starts off slow, the DJ can pump it up. If it gets a little too rowdy, the DJ can slow it down. That's what a professional does. Your DJ can absolutely make or break a wedding reception.

This past weekend, the DJ who made it work was Randal Stout. I've worked with him many times over the last few years and he & his crew deliver premium quality every time. Not only that, but at last month's annual "Best Of" banquet hosted by the American Association of Certified Wedding planners, Randal was awarded the trophy for top DJ/MC for 2010. He even provided Sunday's couple with a minute by minute itinerary of events from the time they arrived until the time they took off in the limo. Details like that sure make my job easier. Besides, he's just a heck of a nice guy.

Click HERE to visit Randal's website. When you plan an event, don't skimp on the technical stuff. That's sound advice.

Blessings,
Ken

Little Boys

2010-03-31T18:32:00.007-05:00

...sometimes cause big tears

We had the Albuquerque branch of the family in town last weekend. It was a quick trip for Ian and Lyss to attend the wedding of a friend. Even though I had to work Friday, Saturday and Sunday, I still got to spend some time with Liam and Henry.

Henry has definitely made up time from being a preemie. This is an alert, healthy and chunky 5 month old. His blues eyes can melt hearts at fifty paces away. His appetite can empty a bottle in a heartbeat.

Liam is growing up. At five years old, he's taller than all his friends which gives them a problem buying clothes for him. If they buy pants that are long enough, they're way too big in the waist. Regrettably, that is not a "problem" that I have.

This little boy also has a way with words. Donna took him to the park on Monday and during the visit he mentioned that it was his last day in Dallas for a while. Donna responded that she would miss him a lot.

He replied, "I'll miss you, too, but you'll be in my heart because I love you".

Hard to explain to a 5 year old why his grandparents have tears in their eyes.

Blessings,

Ken

The Fairy God-Mother Grants Wishes

2010-03-17T20:33:00.021-05:00

...at Fairy Tale Manor

Weather-wish granting was at it's best this past weekend; maybe that's part of the package at Fairy Tale Manor. Last Sunday, Lindsey and Brandon got married in the garden gazebo at the Frisco wedding venue. Could not have been better weather. Sunny, about 70 degrees at ceremony time. Tom and Marcy had the details under control, while Gary Lankford (Heavy G Productions) had the DJ duties under control. Learn more about Gary and his crew at http://www.lankfordweddings.com/

For this event I was fortunate to have my daughter-in-law, Heather, along with me. I had asked her to tag along and take a bunch of candid photos. Posted here are just a few of the 200 or so that she shot.

I do love it when the bride's smile is that big, and the groom is just gazing at her, wondering how he got so lucky. But that's common for us guys. We're never quite sure how we manage to attract and keep our mates. This bride and groom were as relaxed and laid back as they come. Not a bridezilla in sight anywhere.

Oh, the flower girl. Look at that face. When she toddled over towards me holding her arms up, I was powerless to resist. At every wedding, the bride is always the most beautiful girl there. Sunday, the flower girl was definitely next in line.

Blessings,
Ken

Triggering the Mental Time Machine

2010-03-09T11:52:00.005-06:00

...sometimes it's the strangest things

A couple of days ago, we had a left over hamburger patty from a weekend cook out. Donna asked me if I wanted it for lunch (I did) and so she sliced the cold meat into flat strips and put them between two slices of bread rather than a hamburger bun, along with the usual condiments. I took a bite and was instantly transported back to the fourth grade in Orlando, Florida.

Hamburger sandwiches were something that my mother sometimes sent to school with me in my brown bag. Later on I realized it was a way of stretching one hamburger patty into two sandwiches--one for me, one for her. On those days when I opened my lunch bag at school, it was like a treat to find the hamburger sandwich: bread, meat, mayo, mustard, pickles. It made me feel so warm and loved.

That's exactly how my mother made everyone feel. Not just me and my sisters, but cousins, friends, neighbors, and later on, her grandchildren. Unfortunately, she was gone before any of the great-grandchildren came along.

On March 9, 1998, mom suffered a respiratory arrest, never regained consciousness and died peacefully around 5:30pm on March 11. She was only 70 years old. Don't know that she ever knew how important those brown bag hamburger sandwiches were to me.

Love you mom, and miss you every day.

Blessings,
Ken

Bind Us Together

2010-02-27T19:45:00.006-06:00

...in Love

In mid-2009 I began a journey with Bill and Laura, knowing that this would be a blended family. They were very much seeking ways to not only celebrate their marriage to each other, but to actively include and celebrate the fact that three young boys (Shawn, Hayden, and Cooper) are part of this new family as well.

I suggested to them that they include a "Celebration of the New Family" element in the ceremony, during which they would present to the three boys a family medallion to wear around their necks. The picture at right does not do justice to the piece that includes concentric and interlocking circles, symbolizing mom, dad, and children.

Today, more than 1 in 4 marriages involve children. Many brides and grooms come together with one or more children present from previous relationships. The Family Medallion was created to assist with the need for 'family weddings' and to provide resources for supporting family commitments.

Studies show that children accept a parent's re-marriage more readily when they are included in the wedding plans, and are given a tangible symbol of being embraced by the new family. Even on a sub-conscious level, this gives the child part ownership in this new relationship.

On a beautiful day in January of this year, Hayden and Cooper walked their mom down the aisle. Shawn was best man for his dad. Bill and Laura spoke their vows to each other, and then spoke their vows to the three children. It was an occasion for smiles and tears. I had both. Looking into the faces of those three boys as their parents put the medallions around their necks was a powerful moment that gave me a lump in the throat, which I had to swallow quickly so that I could get on to the business of pronouncing Bill and Laura as husband and wife.

Bill, Laura, Shawn, Hayden and Cooper--thanks for making a memory for me.

Blessings,

Ken

Big and Small, Short and Tall

2010-02-23T17:03:00.006-06:00

...God loves us all

Got a huge grin from the latest picture of Liam and Henry (grandsons #2 & #4). Liam is 5 years old and, like his father, is tall for his age. Kind of towers over his friends. Henry, now four months old, is making up for his preemie birth and is growing like a weed.

Reminded me of a song lyric from one of the old "Kids Praise" albums:

We're all children of the Lord, every one.

Big and small, short and tall

And He loves us all

We're all children of the Lord, every one

He's strong when we're weak, He's humble and meek

And He loves us all.

Liam dotes on his little bro. I'm sure in years to come they'll have their share of fights but to see them together is a joy. Liam holds Henry so tenderly and as the second picture indicates, they watch football together, wearing the proper colors, I might add.

Blessings,

Ken

Unintended one-upmanship

2010-02-21T17:34:00.005-06:00

...Niece Tori goes head to head with the pastor

So we're sitting in church this morning with our niece, and while Pastor Gary was speaking he asked, almost rhetorically, if anyone had memorized the Bible verse (Deut 6:4-6) that is the focus of the current sermon series. In his question, though, he mentioned only verses 4-5. Out of around 1500 people in the auditorium, only one hand went up--Tori's. One of the staff brings a microphone over, everyone looks at her, the tv cameras are on her, and she calmly asks if he wants just verses 4-5 or 4-6.

I nearly bit through my tongue laughing. Here's my twenty year old niece, jousting with the senior pastor of a 5000 member church. It made me so proud. Way to go, Tori.

If you don't have a Bible handy, go to www.biblegateway.org and you can read the verses in question. The video is already up on http://www.truthcasting.com/ (keyword: Heights) or on the church website at
www.theheights.org/sermons . Tori's big moment occurs about 10 minutes into the video.

To learn more about our church go to http://www.theheights.org/

Blessings,
Ken

One Little Word

2010-01-28T21:17:00.012-06:00

...the power of the "And"

Ken, Donna, just two names,
Until one day, something changed
They added a word to hold their names together Now when they are heard, sounds just forever

Add one little word suddenly there’s mystery
One little word, don’t you hear the history
Who can understand the power of the "and"
There between their names,
In one little word

Me , you, just two more names
But add that word, you know it’s not the same
Comfort to our children, And hope for young lovers
When one name is spoken always with the other

Add one little word suddenly there’s mystery
One little word, don’t you hear the history
Who can understand the power of the "and"
There between our names
In one little word

Now it’s hard to believe and Lord it’s hard to say
Why anyone would ever want to throw that word away

One little word, suddenly there’s mystery
One little word don’t you hear the history
Who can understand the love is in the "And"
May it always remain, there between our names
Where love can be heard
In one little word

Words & music by Steve Chapman

Blessings,
Ken

O Brother Where Art Thou

2010-01-25T16:29:00.009-06:00

...sleeping

Our grandson #3 is Alexander James, but he is usually called Nander. Check out this video, shot on a cellphone, of him sleeping. It has sound--turn up your speakers.

The child is interesting and fun in many ways, but he has one outstanding and admirable trait: sleeping anywhere. He can be bouncing off the walls one minute and the next, he's asleep somewhere. We rarely have to coax him to hit the hay. When he's ready to sleep, he just plops down wherever he might be.

The pictures of him sleeping are but a few in an album of Nander pix. We've shot a

few, but Heather has made it a point to document this phenom.

Sleeping + snoring + any old place. Makes a grandfather proud. I have no problem doing the first two, but I need to learn his secret about the third.

Blessings,
Ken

p.s. to all the ladies, yes I know what you're thinking. You'd love to have eyelashes like Nanders.

More Refrigerator Art

2010-01-23T15:58:00.006-06:00

...still the good stuff in life

While making a stab at organizing the clutter on my desk I came across a birthday card from my grandson, Liam. My birthday was months ago; Liam was 4 years old at the time. Anyway, he loves to draw and create things and when he's here we spend hours making cards and other artwork.

Here's the inside of the card he made for me. He actually started with a "store bought" card and then customized it. Upon opening the card we find two white pieces of paper taped on the card, each with a drawing. The numbers are my age. Below that appears to be a caped figure flying. Upon lifting those flaps, we see his numerous attempts at spelling "granddaddy". You know, I don't really care whether he can spell "granddaddy" or not. I just want the refrigerator art to keep coming. This masterpiece will now go on the refrigerator along with the artwork from the other grandbabies.

The picture is of Liam (in the Longhorn jersey) with his cousins Aidan and Alexander. It was taken January 1, 2010.

Blessings,

Ken

Happiness Is

2010-01-19T16:18:00.005-06:00

...a sleeping baby

This little guy is the latest big news from Autumn Sadler, one of my favorite wedding coordinators and the events manager at Fairy Tale Manor in Frisco. Click the link for more info.

Check out this picture. Wouldn't you love to be able to sleep that soundly and comfortably? However, all of us who have children know that such sound sleep only lasts until the baby is hungry or needs changing.

Autumn is one of those reasons why I like to slow down on my journey through life and get to know the people I meet at the various venues I visit on a regular basis. If I focused strictly on only one goal, doing one job, then I wouldn't have had a chance to get to know all the wonderful people who send me baby pictures and Christmas cards and birth announcements and graduation announcements and...well you get the picture.

Thanks for the pix, Autumn. Congratulations to you and your family.

Blessings,
Ken

A Pat On The Back

2010-01-13T17:50:00.003-06:00

...for doing something we love

It is a true privilege to be associated with the group of guys at LoveNotes. Each one of us feels the joy of doing what we do. However, a little pat on the back is always nice. Everyone wants and needs encouragement. It's doubly nice when it's unexpected and for something that we enjoy so much.

I am pleased to announce that LoveNotes has been named a 2009 OneWed vendor of the year. This is the second year in a row that we've been given this honor.

OneWed, www.onewed.com, is one of the premier resources for couples planning a wedding.

Blessings,

Ken

Second Time Around

2010-01-13T16:52:00.011-06:00

...with a different twist

At LoveNotes we're often given the privilege of officiating weddings in which bride and groom have been married before. Pretty familiar territory. But how about a wedding where the bride and groom were teenage friends, lost track of each other, then reconnected via Facebook?

This situation happened recently and I got to preside over the ceremony for Pam and Doug at a beautiful home outside of Little Elm, Tx. They had met almost 35 years ago when their respective families moved into a company town in Alberta, Canada. She was 17; he was 15. Because I can still remember how a 15 year old boy thinks, I can imagine his glee to discover that a tall blue-eyed blond moved in next door. Not only that but she had a drivers license AND a car.

High school ends, though, and people go their separate ways. It wasn't until 2009 that Doug and Pam happened to find each other via Facebook. Upon reconnecting, they discovered that it was like they were never apart. Their relationship simply re-started where it left off. Calling a married couple "best friends" has become something of a cliche. But in this case it's absolutely true. Take a close look at Doug--that may be the same "I'm the luckiest guy on the earth" look he had 35 years ago.

My thanks to Brandi Chesser for providing the pictures. A newcomer to the photo business, her talent is obvious and I'm sure I'll see her again. If you want to contact her the email address is brandi.chesser@gmail.com

Blessings,
Ken

UPDATE: 1/22/10. Got a note from Pam that the house here sold promptly and they've settled in to married life in British Columbia where Doug owns a business. He still has that same look on his face :)

Zoë

2010-01-10T20:28:00.005-06:00

...nothing like a good ol' dawg

On January 1, 2010 our branch of the family (all ten of us, plus my dad) got to spend some quality time together at Willow Lake in Wills Point, Texas. Great day, as described on this blog and others.
Well, we have a granddog, Zoe. There's supposed to be an umlaut over the "e" but I don't know how to do that here.

Anyway, on New Year's Day, Zoe and I went for a run, a walk, and a golf cart ride. She's a shepherd/blue heeler mix and is amazingly strong. At one point, when the batteries on the cart were a little weak, she hopped off and helped pull us up a slight incline. When I tugged on the leash, she hopped back on the seat and away we went.

Aidan, Alexander and Liam thought it was quite a sight for granddaddy to be taking the dog for a ride. I thought it was quite fun. My thanks to Heather for the pix.

Blessings,

Ken

The Miles

2010-01-02T15:53:00.003-06:00

...and the years

Everything seems to go faster as one gets older. Can't stop it, but at least you can acknowledge it and try to enjoy every moment. One of those once in a lifetime moments happened on January 1, 2010. Our branch of the family got to spend time with my dad in Wills Point.

Good food, good times. Mamaw taught Aidan, Alexander and Liam about fishing. Ian took the boys out in the canoe. My dad got to meet his newest great-grandson. I took the three older ones cruising in the golf cart. The boys got to see a five pound catfish. Ducks, herons and hawks flying over the lake. Generally one of those days you wish wouldn't end.

AND...we got a family picture. My dad, me, Donna, Adam (with Heather, Aidan & Alexander) and Ian (with Alyssa, Liam, and Henry). Age range 85 years down to 2 months.

Blessings,

Ken

H-Day

2009-12-22T18:52:00.003-06:00

...minus 5 days and counting

Ian and the family are headed to Dallas this weekend. We'll finally get to see and hold Henry Adam, the miracle baby. Can't wait.

every time I look down at my arms, there seems to be a little Henry-shaped space there, just waiting. Only problem I see coming is whether it's me or Donna that gets to the door first. I may be a grandfather, but I think I can out run her!

Blessings,
Ken

Time Really Flies

2009-12-20T17:20:00.003-06:00

...especially as I get older

Thirty-one years ago today, almost at this hour, our second son was born at Seton Hospital in Austin. Never forget being at work that afternoon and getting the call from Donna that her water broke. At that time I was working in a car dealership in Austin and as I ran out the door the first car I came to with keys in it belonged to the owner of the dealership. I jumped in and took off, hoping he'd forgive me under the circumstances.

Ian was a little early and was born by c-section but he came out healthy and hungry, two things that haven't changed much in 31 years. As I look at him now, with two sons of his own, it's hard to remember him as a newborn. Because of the c-section and because he was early, we had to celebrate Christmas in the hospital room that year. Best Christmas gift I ever got.

Happy Birthday, son. I love you.

Blessings,

Dad

p.s. The owner of the car dealership did forgive me.

Yuletide Cheer

2009-12-13T20:52:00.002-06:00

...and a couple of tears

TLBW and I went caroling tonight along with a dozen or so other members of our homeowner's association. Beautiful night, stars out, no wind. Perfect. One of our members had made a list of those in the neighborhood who can't get out due to illness or other reasons. What a joy to see the doors open and smiles light up brighter than the Christmas lights out front!

The one that will stay in my mind for a while is an 80-something lady with a sweet countenance who came to the door in a gown. We had been told that she'd recently had a fall, plus she's in the early stages of Alzheimers. As we sang our songs, tears rolled down her cheeks across the wrinkles and onto the smile she had for us. Have to admit that part way into the second song the words faltered a bit, mainly due to the lump in my throat. As we turned to go I noticed I wasn't the only one with watery eyes.

I don't even know her name and I imagine she doesn't realize how those tears and her smile brightened our lives tonight. I give thanks to God that out of close to a thousand homes in the neighborhood, He let us go to hers.

Blessings,
Ken

Keeping Up With My Couples

2009-12-06T15:52:00.003-06:00

...Justin & Ashley show off their new arrival.

At a wedding rehearsal the other night, I ran into a couple whose ceremony I officiated last year. They were proud to show off their new arrival, Aidan, who not only slept through the rehearsal, but the next night slept through the ceremony as well. Didn't make a peep, sound asleep. Hmm, maybe I just have that effect on people.

Anyway, here's a quick pic I snapped with my phone.

Blessings,

Ken

The Circle of Life

2009-11-28T21:32:00.004-06:00

...some continue, some don't.

This is a bittersweet weekend for our family. Today marks my father's 85th birthday. What a guy! Still active and even hosted most of the family at his place for Turkey Day.

It's also the anniversary of the loss of Sydney Grace Byrd. She would have been two years old tomorrow. Click HERE to see the video that Ian made for his daughter for her memorial service.

So why do some of us live such long lives and some lives are so short or non-existent? Not for us to know or understand now. We'll find out later. Couple of things I want to ask God, one about Sydney Grace, the other about what miracles He has in store for Henry Adam Byrd, now five weeks old.

Blessings,
Ken

Big Brother, Little Brother

2009-11-16T20:18:00.003-06:00

...never too young to be Longhorns

The picture of Liam and Henry taken during the Texas vs. Baylor game really doesn't need much explanation. Touchdown!

The one of Ian, Liam and Henry was taken game day, 'Horns vs Kansas.

Makes a father proud!

Blessings,

Ken

Professionals

2009-11-09T18:16:00.002-06:00

...this is why you hire them

Over this past weekend I had an experience that once again points out why you should hire professionals for your wedding.

I had a wedding on my schedule at a large Dallas hotel. Rehearsal Friday night went smoothly and the event coordinator was top notch. She and I have worked together before. However, on Saturday, she was injured in a car accident and was not able to be there for the wedding. Turned out, the hotel catering staff has a backup plan for everything. When I walked in on wedding day, things were well under control and all it took was a quick convo between me and some staff members and we were ready to proceed. The ceremony and reception went as planned without a hitch in getting them hitched.

My advice to couples is this: your wedding day only happens once so take advantage of industry professionals who have the experience to make your occasion go smoothly. Whether you go for an all-inconclusive package at a hotel or country club, or if you hire your own individual vendors, use seasoned professionals. At the end of the day, you'll be happier for it. And always have a backup plan!

Okay, I know I'll get asked, so the answer is: Hotel Adolphus.

Blessings,
Ken

Byrd, Party of Four

2009-11-03T18:18:00.006-06:00

...your home is ready

He's home! At the ripe old age of 11 days Henry Adam is home from the hospital. This major step was a huge one and a great relief to Ian and Lyss. I think, however, it's an even greater relief to Henry's big brother, who can now see with his own eyes the reality of having a baby bro.

This rapid improvement surprised the doctors, who had initially said that Henry might be in the NICU for up to a month. He's a fighter, already gaining weight. He did come home on oxygen but that's temporary.

Mainly, he's home, surrounded by love. If he was thriving in the hospital, just think how well he'll do at home.

Enjoy the pix. For some reason, excessive staring at these pictures makes my eyes watery. Wonder why?

Blessings,

Ken

Seven Years Ago

2009-11-02T19:47:00.004-06:00

...I became a grandfather for the first time

Still remember the early phone call on that Saturday, Adam telling me that Heather was in labor. We were dressed, packed and in the car in no time at all, heading down I-35 to Round Rock. Luckily, we made it with time to spare and stood outside the birthing room with Heather's parents. Waiting. Waiting. Waiting.

When we heard the first cry, the tears streamed and a few minutes later, Adam burst out of the room with possibly the biggest smile I had ever seen on his face.

Aidan Kenneth Byrd, born November 2, 2002. He's #1, not in the sense of being the favorite but he was the first and as such will always have a special place in my heart. Happy Birthday, Aidan!

Blessings,

Ken

Walking Tall

2009-10-30T20:09:00.003-05:00

...or not

At a recent wedding in Flower Mound, the guests and the photographer got a chuckle out of this picture. Even standing on the small stage, I could not look the two bridesmaids in the eye. I'm 5'8". Wilma is 6'4", Yveta is 6'2", and they were both wearing heels.

Blessings,

Ken

Hook 'Em Henry

2009-10-24T21:02:00.003-05:00

...never too young to be a Longhorn

Doesn't really need much explanation. Not even two days old and Henry is dressed in the right colors, watching the 'Horns open a can of whoopass on Missou.

Blessings,

Ken

HE'S HERE!!

2009-10-23T13:28:00.003-05:00

...Henry Adam meets the world

God is good.

Henry Adam Byrd was delivered by c-section this morning. Five pounds, 3.5 ounces. He started crying as soon as he was out. He's breathing on his own and has already had a bottle. Alyssa was awake during delivery so she got to experience his first cry, sweet sounds of relief.

So far, no breathing tubes, but he'll still be in the NICU for a time. Alyssa is in good spirts; Ian is bouncing off the walls. I can't stop grinning.

Appropriately, the first phone call and picture went to Henry's big brother, Liam.

Did I mention I can't stop grinning?

Blessings,

Ken a/k/a Granddaddy Byrd

Baby Watch

2009-10-22T21:50:00.003-05:00

...less than twelve hours to go

Just under twelve hours from now, Henry Adam Byrd will be delivered into the world after spending less than 34 weeks in preparation. I cannot begin to fathom the feelings and pressures that Ian and Alyssa are under.

I do know this: my son and his wife are among the two strongest and faithful human beings on the planet. How many of us would willingly take this step of faith to bring a child into the world, especially given the events of the last two years?

This picture, taken just a few days ago at the hospital by our friend Amy, is so descriptive. Alyssa, very pregnant and so beautiful, cradling Henry, with the footprint of Sydney Grace forever on her own foot.

I can't help but wonder what wonderful things are in store for Henry.

blessings,

Ken

Liam Loves His Little Bro

2009-10-13T16:08:00.004-05:00

...and Henry learns to pout

Liam got to see Lyss in the hospital today, which I'm sure is a comfort to mother and child. Here's a pic of Liam giving his little brother a hug. If you aren't sure what you're seeing, just look for the belly button :)

During the latest ultrasound the technician had to give Henry a little zap to get him to cooperate and turn. Evidently, he didn't like it as the picture clearly shows a pout on his face. Amazing the detail you can see. BTW, don't worry about the shadow at the top--his head really is there!

My thanks to Lyss for the constant updates, pix and Facebook posts. In this case, having the internet is the next best thing to being there.

Blessings,

Ken

Baby Watch

2009-10-12T20:57:00.002-05:00

...two weeks or less

Good ultra sound and Henry Adam looks great. Lyss was admitted to the hospital today as a precaution. This is really a relief and a comfort that she'll be so close to monitoring and medical care.

Now, we wait. Sometime in the next 14 days, Henry will greet the outside world.

blessings,
Ken

Update on Henry Adam Byrd

2009-09-24T17:49:00.003-05:00

...30 weeks!

Alyssa's daily doc visits are going well and today is week 30, the magic number for Ian & Alyssa. The baby is still developing well, very active and the 4D ultrasound pix are amazing.

Now, if I could just draw a good deep breath! I'm not sure that will happen until Henry is delivered to greet his future.

"For I know the plans I have for you, declares the LORD, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future." -Jeremiah 29:11

blessings,
Ken

Twenty Eight Weeks and Counting

2009-09-09T17:35:00.003-05:00

...Henry Adam Byrd is on the way

Got the news from Alyssa today that her latest doctor visit went well. She's at 28 weeks and the baby is actually measuring a week ahead at 2 lbs 9 oz. Very soon she'll start on steroids for the baby's lung development (in case of very early delivery), and they'll be monitoring her very closely. Depending on the daily tests, she may be hospitalized until delivery. They won't let her go past 36 weeks, given her history.

One step at a time. Right now, we just need to pray that she gets past the 30 week mark. That is a huge mental as well as physical hurdle, as it was at 30 weeks that they lost Sydney Grace in 2007.

The picture is from yesterday's 4D ultrasound. Can't wait to hold him and wonder what God has in store for him. After the events of the last two years, I know that this child will have a purpose in life, but right now only God knows what that is.

Blessings,

Ken

They Walk Among Us

2009-09-04T16:45:00.007-05:00

...you never know when you'll meet a hero

September 24, 2005 is a special day for Sarabeth and Graham (and me!). On that day I had the honor of officiating their wedding ceremony. I knew at the time that Graham was a new officer with the Dallas Police Department. I also sensed that this was a young man with steely resolve and yet compassionate heart--the kind of guy you want on your side. Wouldn't want to be on the wrong side of Graham and yet I'm more than happy to have him protecting me.

Fast forward a couple of years and I discovered that Sarabeth is in the wedding planning business, most recently starting her own company, called Sarabeth Events. Click HERE for more info. Sarabeth is one of the premier event planners in north Texas. Through the wedding industry, I've been able to stay in regular contact with the couple. Not regular enough, apparently.

Not sure how I missed this story in the Dallas Morning News, but Graham got his mug and a story on the front page of the paper on April 3, 2009. You can read the story of his actions HERE. Sorry, but I don't have a better picture of Graham.

A few weeks ago, got an email from Sarabeth that their first child is due later this year. Graham Alden Quattlebaum is due December 8. Maybe I'll get some baby pix that I can post later on.

Here's the thing: in the course of our daily lives, we never know who we'll meet, what person might impact our lives, or how we might impact someone else's life. We just need to be open to those around us. By the way, I'm absolutely sure that Graham is not comfortable with the "hero" title but that's okay. Just know that if you're on the Dallas streets and you get stopped by a muscular, athletic looking officer with a really long name that starts with "Q", you're looking at a hero. Sign the ticket and tell him "thanks".

Thanks, Graham, for protecting and serving us. And thanks, Sarabeth, for supporting your man in his chosen profession. I'll be expecting the baby pix.

Blessings,
Ken

With Every Marriage and Every Birth

2009-09-03T21:05:00.008-05:00

...the circle of love grows

Sometime around the spring of 2008 I met a young couple in love and we were planning a fall wedding, I think. Then plans changed as they found they had a daughter on the way. Kim and Parrish decided that they wanted not only a wedding ceremony, but a baptism for their daughter as well.

So in late June of this year, at the newly built Capella Court Gardens, about 150 family members and friends got to witness not only the beginning of a new marriage and a new family, but the baptism of Peyton Julia as well.

Work, home and family are now the focus for Kim and Parrish. For now, here are some of the pix that Kim sent me. There'll be more when there's time. Pictures can wait. Peyton Julia comes first.

The circle grows. Have I mentioned I love what I do?

Blessings,

Ken

I Am Blessed

2009-08-27T20:39:00.008-05:00

...love beyond belief

My life is so blessed with family and friends. Julie, Gavin & Landry. David, Rena and kids. Stephanie (Turtle) and son. Stacie, Ryan & Dawson. Adam, Heather, Ian, Alyssa, Aidan, Alexander, Liam and soon, Henry Adam. There's also Sydney Grace who lives in heaven.

The pictures are of my namesakes: Aidan Kenneth (almost 7) and Dawson Kenneth (one year). Aidan was at NASA space camp sitting in the "spinning chair" controlled by a computer. The look of concentration on his face is in character for him. Dawson is obviously enjoying his birthday cake.

I am blessed.

Ken

August 23, 1969

2009-08-23T10:40:00.003-05:00

...the best day of my life

In Austin, Texas any August day is hot. The 23rd was especially so. My father-in-laws tux was delivered without pants. Thirty minutes before ceremony, the organ broke and the musician had to transpose to piano. None of that mattered. Still the best day of my life.

Happy 40th anniversary to the one and only love of my life.

Love and blessings,

Ken

Refrigerator Art

2009-08-13T15:54:00.008-05:00

...this is the good stuff

When you walk into anyone's home and you want to find out what's important to them without ever asking a question, what do you do? Walk into the kitchen and look at the refrigerator! Refrigerator art--it's the good stuff, better than any pricey painting or print hanging in the living room.

When I meet with couples about to be a blended family--to begin the process of planning a wedding ceremony--I always take with me paper, stickers, crayons and markers to keep the small children entertained while the adults chat.

Last night I met with Nicole and her five year old daughter, Leona. The groom couldn't join us, mainly because he's currently on an aircraft carrier in the Persian Gulf. Anyway, Leona was overwhelmingly charming, articulate and imaginative. In most cases the children take their artwork with them, but Leona held them out to me and said "I made these for you". (that squishy sound you hear is my heart melting)

We made plans to include the child in the wedding ceremony. Should make for a very tender moment. In December as Nicole and Tim become husband and wife, Leona will be entering the new family to make it complete. Stay tuned for more pix at Christmas.

Thanks, Leona, for the artwork and for the sweet hug you gave me.

Blessings,
Ken

It's Back Where It Belongs

2009-08-10T18:24:00.004-05:00

...third finger, left hand

If you saw my April 29 entry you know that I recently had to have my wedding ring cut off my finger following a hand injury. It took a few weeks to heal and the swelling to go down so I waited til just recently to have the ring repaired.

I'm happy to report that I picked up the ring and took it home to my bride so she could put it back on my finger, just as she did on August 23, 1969. Can't prove it, but I swear I sleep better at night knowing it's back where it belongs.

We're about to celebrate anniversary number 40. Forty years! But then, who else but my bride would put up with me that long?

Blessings,

Ken

Space Camp For Kids

2009-08-03T17:40:00.004-05:00

...it's real, and it's NASA

May not have pictures to post for a few days, but grandson #1, Aidan Kenneth, is in Houston this week for NASA Space Camp. Unbelievably exciting! Can't wait to hear about it.

Heather is there with him, but she doesn't attend the camp. It's kind of like school mixed with summer camp. He goes there every morning at 8am and is done by 4pm or so. This gives Heather and her mom free time during the day to explore Houston. Or shop. Or sit by the pool.

Aidan has an unquenchable thirst for learning which is a good thing. But it also means that the word "why?" comes out of his mouth about 8,000 times a day. That's okay. He's happiest when he's being fed a continuous stream of anything to do with science, math and space exploration. He continues to insist that he plans to be the first man to walk on Mars, a goal he started to mention two years ago.

Aidan will be 7 years old in November.

Way to Go, Aidan! And about that Mars thing- take extra undies, it's a long trip. And if you get to Jupiter, make a u-turn. You went too far.

Blessings,
Ken (or as Aidan knows me, Granddaddy)

Taj Mahal

2009-08-01T20:06:00.012-05:00

...the perfect setting for a proposal

When the mother of the bride tells me they plan to serve a whole roast pig at the rehearsal, I have to figure this will be an interesting event. Then to find out that the groom proposed to the bride in front of the Taj Mahal in India, well, I just couldn't wait to be involved.

If you're thinking there is big time ethnic diversity going on, you'd be incorrect. Both families are Texans from Wylie, and the bride & groom are in grad school at Texas A&M. They just happen to be well traveled and absolutely thirsty for knowledge and experience.

Richard and Brittany were actually the proverbial high school sweethearts at Wylie High School.

Too bad I don't have pictures of the rehearsal dinner but even a picture wouldn't do justice to the main course. Seis Lagos clubhouse was a wonderful setting and the roast pig was done to perfection in a "Chinese box" by the father of the groom. Nothing says "good time" to a southern boy like me quite as much as roast pork.

Wedding day included the usual pre-ceremony butterflies and tears (from the bride and the groom). A few more tears during the ceremony. The bride was stunning, as you can see in the pictures, and for some reason her dress and hairstyle brought to mind images somewhere between a classic 1940's movie, or maybe my hippie days in Austin in the mid-1960's (cue Scott McKenzie's "San Francisco Be Sure to Wear Some Flowers in Your Hair)

Except that the groom had to respond to certain questions in the ceremony, I'm not sure he heard a word I was saying--he was totally focused on his bride. It's okay, Richard, everyone else was, too.

An interesting element in the ceremony was a "knot tying". Literally. The couple decided to add an interesting twist to an ancient Celtic tradition called handfasting--they tied a figure-eight knot as a symbol of their commitment and unity. When viewed on its side, the knot forms the math & science symbol for infinity. Nice touch and I liked it. The knot is now part of their keepsakes.

I have to give propers to Sharon, mother of the groom, who was my initial contact and the one responsible for much of the planning (since bride and groom were in grad school). Her regular emails and phone calls to me were a blessing and kept me in the loop for planning. When I know someone is handling all the myriad details of a wedding, it allows me to relax a little and just concentrate on bride, groom and ceremony.

Blessings,

Ken

Ease On Down The Road

2009-07-23T16:02:00.007-05:00

...a whole new processional idea

If you haven't seen this video, click the link below. It pretty much blows the lid off any wedding processional you've ever seen. I'm not suggesting that this is for everyone, and many will want a more solemn moment.

However, I view a wedding as a celebration and this couple definitely started their marriage with a celebration and a sense of humor.

Dance. Boogie. Get down wit yo bad self. Watch video HERE

Enjoy. InJoy.

Blessings
Ken "Gotta Dance" Byrd

07/24/09 UPDATE: Apparently this video has gone viral and the couple has been on some of the morning tv shows. The first dance at the reception was also choreographed, but I haven't seen it posted anywhere yet.

Boys Will Be Boys

2009-07-22T15:34:00.007-05:00

even when they're 34

My daughter-in-law, Heather, recently combined a couple of their family pic sites into one blog. As any grandparent would, I applaud this move because it gives me quicker access to pix of two grandsons in Round Rock.

The latest blog entry covers a recent family outing to Zilker Park in Austin. Adam & Heather took Alexander (4 years old) while Aidan (6 years old) was in a summer school program called Summer Wonders. The school is for kids who--believe it or not--WANT to go to school in the summer.

So while they were at Zilker, they took Alexander (we call him Nander) for a ride on the Zilker Zephyr, a kids train that circles the park. He loved it as you can see from the happy face in the picture. For that matter, how could anyone resist that smooshy face. I can't.

Then there's the third little boy, or as he is sometimes known, father of Aidan and Alexander. Take this picture for what it's worth; just trust me, it's in character, right down to the words on the tee shirt.

If you go visit the blog HERE you'll notice a decidedly German flavor, owing to Heather's German heritage. At home, she speaks English and German to the boys and they're likely to answer in either language. Sometimes they pretend not to understand, unless they're in trouble and are being scolded. Then, amazingly, they speak & understand fluent German. Nothing like a mommy voice to add clarity.

Thanks for the blog, Heather.

Blessings,
Ken

The Comfort

2009-07-13T20:49:00.004-05:00

...the indescribable joy of a best friend

My hope is that everyone has a "best friend". My best friend (other than my spouse) is my buddy, Rev. Ken Savage. He and I crossed paths about 1982 or so at our church, now known as The Heights, but originally called Richardson Heights Baptist Church.

He and his wife, I and my wife, watched each other's children grow up. We shared job struggles together, child raising together, and so many other things. Even though my rational brain can put a date on it, I usually can't remember a time when Ken wasn't part of my life. We share so many things: a love of God, love of family, love of music (blues & rock) and so much more. One of my favorite memories was the occasion of mine & Donna's 20th wedding anniversary when the four of us were hosted for a weekend cruise on Lake Texoma on a 57 foot yacht. My other favorite memory is from 2001, when I had surgery, he was kicked out of my hospital room by the nurses because they were afraid our laughter would tear my stitches. Later he brought me videos of old comedy shows to watch while I healed up. As the Bible says, laughter is good medicine. He and I have shared plenty of said medicine.

When I lost my mother in 1998, he was one of my first phone calls. When he lost his brother recently, my phone rang. When my son and his wife lost a baby in 2007, he was my first phone call. When either of us needs to vent over almost anything, our numbers are on each other's speed dial. I know that if I called him in the middle of the night and asked for help, he wouldn't ask what or why, he'd just hang up and start driving towards me. I'd do the same.

There is a joy in feeling comfortable with a close friend, knowing that I can say anything at all to him, yell, vent, cry, whatever--and he'll keep that which is worth keeping, and like a kind wind, blow away and not remember that which should be forgotten.

Friends like that don't come along every day. Dr. Savage, my friend, I love you. Philippians 1:3

Blessings,
Ken

p.s. Given that we're both associated with LoveNotesWeddings, I love it when wedding coordinators and venue folks refer to us as "the Kens".